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CAIRO – 30 October 2017: Most people aren’t aware that 60 percent of our communication lies in our body language. In other words, it’s not what you say, but how you say it.
If you go into a pitch, interview or date and focus only on the words you use, you are leaving your most powerful tool behind.
Research has found that the right body language helps you portray higher levels of confidence, charisma and intelligence.
Can our body language change how we think and feel about ourselves?
Studies show that our subconscious mind doesn’t distinguish between fact or fiction information; however, it controls over 90% of our actions. This means that our thoughts (whether they are real or imaginary) translate into feelings, we take actions according to these feelings, and repetitive actions become our lifestyle, which in the end determines our outcome.
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So basically, if we could control our thoughts, we could control many things in our lives. Controlling our thoughts takes a lot of focus and practice in order to master it, and it isn’t exactly an easy ride for most people… Is there any way around that? Sure, fake it until you make it… Yes, exactly as you read it, we are going to trick our minds by using our bodies in order to get the desired outcome and here is how it works:
There is scientific evidence proving the strong effect of our physiology on our minds, meaning that our bodies affect our minds.
For example: it’s normal to smile when you feel happy, but what about when you hold a pen in your teeth and force yourself to smile… How do you feel? You feel happy too, because it goes both ways.
Another example is to acknowledge and state how you feel at this very moment, then start clapping one clap, two claps, three faster claps, four faster claps, five faster claps…now check how you feel. You are more energetic and happier.
That proves that our bodies change our minds, our minds change our thoughts, and our thoughts change our outcomes.
It’s the same thing when it comes to self-confidence or feeling powerful. Even if you don’t feel confident, once you try a two-minute “powerful pose” (for example by putting your hands on your waste), you will feel and act more confident and powerful.
Confident people are known to be powerful, more assertive and more optimistic. They are able to think more abstractly, make rational decisions and communicate effectively; they are more influential; and they make great leaders and partners… who doesn’t want to become that person?
How can power poses for a few minutes change your life in meaningful way?
Before you go to your next stressful evaluative situation (be it an interview, a date or a pitch) configure your brain to cope the best in your situation by practicing a power pose for two minutes.
“You want to feel that you have the power to bring your full, spirited self to the situation, stripped of the fears and inhibitions that might typically hold you back.” - Amy Cuddy
Once in that interview, date, or meeting, you’ll notice that your body language reflects your confident state of mind. Most likely you’ll be sitting straight with an open posture, your head up and with a smile on your face.
Developing your self-confidence is a process that you go through to improve your personality. The two-minute power pose is a simple “quick fix,” but a person who’s interested in working on themselves in this area should look more in depth at the real causes and work on it gradually. There are many workshops that could help you go through that process.
To sum it up, “Emotions are created by motions.” - Tony Robbins… So if you don’t like how you feel at any given moment, just change your physical status.
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With long-term, multicultural life experiences in world-class communities across the globe, Marlin Soliman takes our day-to-day communication to a whole new level. She helps her clients become dynamic, confident speakers who can inspire action by delivering a message that matters in an adequate manner.
Her experience in PR includes working as a celebrity manager in the prestigious agency MAD Solutions, renowned for handling celebrities’ affairs. Marlin handled many celebrities, including Hend Sabry, Nahed El Sebai, Yasmin Raeis, scenarist and producer Mohamed Hefzy, director Marwan Hamed, director Hadi El Bagoury and music composer Tamer Karawan.
Her educational background afforded her the opportunity of being well exposed to various aspects of communication. Soliman earned her bachelor’s in French language and literature and mass communication at Anderson University in the U.S.. She also studied French Literature at La Sorbone University in France, received an executive management diploma from the American University in Cairo and a certificate in training TOT from the International Communication Training Institute in the U.K.
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