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CAIRO – 6 February 2018: The age-old question 'What do women want?' has never been more difficult to answer. With different personalities, increased mobility and more and more women taking down social, economic and political barriers everyday, it has never been more difficult to answer this question. Truth is, there is no one answer. Every woman is different and depending on her goals and dreams, every woman wants different things.
Today, I share with you the six most important things I expect from my significant other (SO) in hopes of inspiring some, helping others and to be frank, getting it off my chest.
1. Loyalty, loyalty, loyalty…
Loyalty is key in any relationship. It is the fundamental cornerstone on which any relationship is built. I would expect my partner to be loyal to me and true to me, as I would be to him. In an age where technology has made it easier than ever to cheat on you SO or do something behind their back that would upset them without them finding out, loyalty and the feeling of trust has become more important than ever. In short, I need to know and feel my partner's loyalty. Voila, mystery unraveled.
2. Be my best friend:
Make me feel that I can tell you anything and everything. Don’t get all grumpy and bored when I speak to you about my day or how upset I am about the silly coffee spill on my jumper. I know it is silly but I want to share it with you. I want you to listen and share with me. I want to be there for you all the time, like I expect you to be there for me. You will be the first person I think of when I get upset, excited, happy and so on, I would like the same from you.
Being my best friend will certainly make me feel loved without you having to say it. After all, saying 'I love you' a lot takes the meaning out of it. Instead, you can express our love by doing the things that I love with me, and, of course, I will do the same.
Let me know that you love me through your actions. Watch my favorite TV show with me instead of that football match, and expect me to get excited for that football match that you want to watch so much, even if I do not really like football.
3. Balancing honesty and being complementary:
Just because I love compliments doesn’t mean I want to be lied to. I expect my significant other to be honest but kind, truthful my mindful of my feelings, as I would be to him. Moderation is your best friend here. I want you to tell me if I have gained weight or if I do not necessarily look good in this color but I want you to be respectful while telling me and I need you to choose the time and the place to do it. Telling me in the middle of a gathering that yellow is not my color will do nothing but upset me and, frankly, piss me off.
Also, know that I do not need the compliments to survive, I am my own person. I want them. There is a big difference. I want you to notice that I have put in the effort to look good, or wear that article of clothing you like so much. I will do the same to you. Compliments make us feel noticed, that is why I believe in them.
4. Be responsive:
Ever heard of eye contact? Look at my eyes when I speak to you, react when I say something and for the love of God, do not zone out! It is not that hard; trust me. I want to feel that my SO is engaged with me and that they want to listen to me, just like they would want.
Make me feel safe. Be there for me. You are my shoulder to cry on and the person I will run to when I need help or when someone upsets/hurts me. And no, you are not the only person who would/could help me, but I want YOU to be the one to help me, just like I would want my SO to come to me when they want me.
6. Tend to her:
I needs to know that my SO cares and that he is giving me his all. Our relationship will be a give and take. I will compromise when I need to but they also need to compromise when there is a need to. I need to know that my SO will be there when I am in doubt or a little bit off. I need to know that they won’t walk away.
So, there you have it, the six most important things I want from my significant other. Remember though, every woman is different and wants/needs different things. Simplest way to understand your woman/man? Ask them, speak to them, communicate.