"Kindness doesn't cost a thing." This sentiment is being thrown around a lot to encourage people to do acts of kindness. While there’s nothing wrong with offering kindness without expecting something in return, what people fail to consider is, kindness is a very difficult thing to do, especially when malice, envy, and hatred among people exist.
In this article, I demonstrate why it actually costs a lot to be kind, and disclaimer, I’m not encouraging people to go full villain mode, but to know how much your kindness is worth and how its best to utilize it and when to give up on people who are not worthy of your energy.
Let’s be completely real and objective for a second, this is a judgment-free zone. We, as human beings, are not perfect, will never be perfect, and we have all virtues and vices that we inherited.
All of us made mistakes, intentionally or not, we all have bad traits, and let’s not lie to ourselves, they are pretty awful, from jealousy, envy, anger, apathy, you name it, we all possess bad qualities that we cannot remove it like a banana peel. That’s what being human is all about; it’s hard to do right by people when life is constantly dunking on you.
Who hasn’t had a bad thought and just didn’t want anything good to happen? I have had those thoughts, guilty as charged, but just because I’m having bad thoughts and awful traits, doesn't mean I have the right to act on them.
Again, who hasn’t wanted to “enter their villain era” and embrace those impulsive behaviours and act all evil? We want to, we don’t act on them, and it’s a lot to resist.
It’s actually easy to let your intrusive thoughts and compulsions win.
There’s this tweet that i’d like to share with you that demonstrates how you can deliberately choose to hurt someone.
From a far, this tweet seem like it has nothing to do with kindness or relates to what I say, but if you look close and let these words marinate for a second, you’d find it that when I say, it’s easy to act on urges and resist temptation to be bad, is true.
It’s difficult on so many levels to be thoughtful, to do right by people, and to do it without waiting for a payback.
Which, speaking of payback…
There’s something we all need to acknowledge and not bury deep in our minds: not everyone is built like you, nor do they give kindness in the first place. If that’s the case, there won’t be any bullying, acts of betrayal, war, you name it. Again, just because you chose to turn the other cheek and live in peace, doesn’t mean the peace will follow you right away. Sorry for quoting Alfred Pennyworth in “The Dark Knight,” but “Some Men Just Want To Watch The World” and you cannot change them, reform them, and demand that the act of kindness be repaid.
I know the article looks bleak as **** but there’s something crucial I want to point out: just because it costs a lot to be kind, doesn’t mean it’s not worthy of sharing.
You should really admire the strength, purity, and consistency you possess when trying to be a good person.
Don’t let these traits and acts go wasted on the wrong people, because there are people out there who are longing for any shape or form of kindness, whether a compliment or calling them to check on their wellbeing, giving them coffee because you know that they are tired or just saying happy birthday.
It costs a lot to be kind, but when spent on the right people, the reward is priceless.
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