There’s nothing more sacred and intimate than female friendship. From sharing juicy gossip, picking out outfits for dates, and supporting each other through thick and thin, female friendship is powerful and unique. It’s about hearing each other without casting judgments, offering advice when asked, and saying the right things when needed, BUT in some situations, you just need to stay quiet and not react.
This is a little controversial take, like how to be silent when I’m asked to give my opinion or they’re waiting on me to give a reaction, trust me, it’s better to stay silent that to say something damning later on, allow me to explain and demonstrate some situation you should absolutely keep your composure and ZIP IT.
Any Conversation About Breakups, Heartaches With Returning Ex…Silence
We’ve all been there. Your bestie meets someone, they date, fall in love, miscommunication occurs, and afterwards comes the breakup. You do your best to cheer her up, indulge yourselves with icecream, have sleepovers, days at spa, dissecting every detail that happened in the relationship and just when you thought you and her have agreed that it’s time to move on and no party is at fault, she comes back to her ex.
Talk about awkward, cause now, you know that everything you’ve said, whether you trashed talked about her ex or just gave an honest opinion, is not only been thrown out of the window, but sometimes it’s used as a mean for her to state that you don’t see their relationship blossoming and that will make you unofficial villain.
So, my advice if your friend broke up with her boyfriend or fiancé or whatever, is to be quiet for a while. Because in some instances, the breakup is temporary and was made on a whim, and not as a definitive thing. Just wait, stay quiet, only speak when asked, and don’t jump the gun.
You Don’t Know The Full Story, So Stay Silent and Let The Pieces Fall Into Place
Not to cast blame or throw accusations towards your best friends, but we’ve all been guilty of omitting information, embellishing details when it comes to breakups. The full story without any subjective narrative is rarely revealed during the first period after a breakup, so before you say anything, just know that behind every story, there’s her side, his, and the truth.
No one can be truly objective and have a clear mind to see things realistically after the end of a relationship, each party is filled with emotions, hurt and just want to vent to release those feelings, and while that’s valid, it’s not the full picture of what went wrong with the relationship.
Just observe, listen, and wait for your friend to reach clarity, then put your two cents in.
Silence Will Prevent You From Having a Fallout
When your best friend breaks things off with her partner, sometimes she doesn’t want to talk about it. Maybe she’s in the denial phase or simply not ready to start a conversation about it. Whatever her reasons are, when you hear that she broke things off, check her reaction and what she is saying. Is she telling you the news in a passive-aggressive way? Is she apathetic to the whole situation, or is she open to talking about what happened? Her answers won’t be subtext, the tone will be crystal clear, so wait for how she responds and then maybe, wait a while till she is ready to talk about it or state that she’s truly fine and will heal on her own.
It’s tough to stay silent, even if every cell of your body is telling you to speak up, but remember, silence is key, even if your friendship is based on you oversharing everything, but on other occasions, it’s better to not say anything.
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