Learning to Let Go: Literally & Figuratively

In a world filled with chaos, where everything runs at lightning speed, we tend to hold on to things that are not as useful as they seem. We overbuy things, hold on to people we have outgrown, and keep memorabilia that is already worn out and broken. We have nostalgic tendencies as we grow old, and it's completely fine; however, holding on to the past and unnecessary items can set you back. Speaking literally, keeping an old journal is fine, but a t-shirt that you haven’t worn for years and won’t wear because it reminded you of a specific moment is hoarding. And figuratively speaking, if your group of friends doesn’t match your updated mindset or way of living, then maybe you should start getting with a group that will help you move forward. That doesn’t mean completely cutting ties with the old group of friends but to more align yourself with people who will make you evolve and be a better version of yourself

 

So you have clutter, literally and figuratively, how do you make your life more organized? In the words of Marie Kondo, the Japanese professional organizer and consultant “Take each item in one’s hand and ask:

sure this quote is made when it comes to getting rid of clutter, but it can be applied to other areas of your life. 

 

Here are tips for Getting Rid of Useless Items, Literally & Figuratively:

 

First, Literally

 

Start Small: Before tackling larger or more emotionally charged places, start with smaller, less sentimental items to gain momentum and confidence.

 

Create Clear Objectives: Decide if you want to simplify your life, make more space, or lessen stress as your reasons for decluttering.

 

Evaluate Every Item: Examine everything you own with a critical eye to see which items you hardly ever or never use.

 

Donate or Sell: Goods that are still in use but not needed might be sold online, during a garage sale, or donated to a charitable organization.

 

Second, Figuratively 

 

Self-Reflection: when you how hard it is to make friends, and as you grow older, your circle of confidants gets smaller. Yet, you feel like the people you’ve loved and cherished are no longer giving you the same feeling of excitement and motivation as before. So with that in mind, it’s important to give yourself some time to consider the reasons behind your friendship’s lackluster energy. Think about the changes that your goals, interests, and values have undergone.

 

Embrace Change: Recognize that relationships and friendships naturally shift and develop. Friends sometimes part ways, as it’s normal for life’s changes to affect your way of thinking and behavior. Understand that outgrowing someone doesn't imply superiority, but rather divergent paths.

 

Prioritize Self-Care: Redirect your focus towards activities and relationships that bring fulfillment and joy. Invest time in nurturing personal growth and well-being. Try new things you didn’t try before, and get out of your comfort zone. 

 

Find Gratitude: Reflect on the positive aspects of the friendship or relationship you have and the lessons it taught you. Even as you move forward independently, express gratitude for the person's contribution to your life.

 

Set Boundaries: Maintain a healthy set of boundaries to protect your emotional well-being. As a result, the relationship might be reduced in contact or distanced.

 

Embrace New Connections: Make space for new relationships to blossom after releasing old ones. Keep your eyes open for new opportunities for growth. Try to get into hobbies that encourage teamwork, and from here, you’ll be able to see different minded people.