The society we grow up in plays a role in shaping our self-perception, what we should do, and what we should be like. One stigma following the other passed down on us, our minds are fed with things we should believe and follow without having checked their validity or if they make any sense at all. We then grow up year after year only to have realized we are losing our true selves having conformed to all those stigmas and expectations society has thrown on us. But in fact, so long you cause no harm to society, you should ignore all the pressures it forces upon you and you should never be ashamed of…
1. Your social status. You don’t have to be living in a fancy house or driving a posh car to feel worthy. It is never the money, the power, or the prestige that makes you a good person, but rather your manners, your moral compass, and the way you carry yourself. Money doesn’t bring class, integrity does.
2. Your failures. With so many forced talks on how successful you should be and how fast you should climb that ladder, we’ve become ashamed of our failures, forgetting that failures are an important part of self-growth and learning. Accept your setbacks, learn from them, and embrace them as important steps in the journey.
3. Your vulnerabilities and negative emotions. Now, it’s all talks about having to remain positive all the time that we have become ashamed of our negative emotions and frustrations which are part of us being human. We hide our emotions and vulnerabilities in fear of being perceived as weak and dramatic.
4. Your marital status. As if society has set an alarm to an age when we should get married and have kids, and if you fall behind the line you feel late and undesired. Married, single, or divorced, is a choice that is up to you alone.
5. Your career choices. Facing it with all honesty, some jobs are praised while others don’t receive the same respect and are regarded as less prestigious. Sad as it sounds, people tend to value you based on what you do for a living. But remember, you will never be able to go anywhere in a career that you choose, not out of love, but to maintain certain status. In the end, you don’t have to be a CEO to think of yourself as successful, you can do a simpler job and still excel at it.